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Parenting apart

If you and your partner have decided to separate, it can be hard to deal with, especially if you have children. Everyone handles with separation differently but there are some things you can try to make the separation easier for you and your children.

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When you are separating or have separated

  1. Prioritise your child. When you’re with your child, try put your feelings aside and make sure their needs and feelings come first.  
  2. Provide some stability, by keeping routines and by spending time with your child and being open to their questions. 
  3. Reassure them that it will be okay, and that you still love them and will be there for them as much as you can.  
Parenting apart

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The free Separating Better app aims to help you separate more amicably for the benefit of everyone involved, especially the children. The app contains:

click here to download the app for Android devices

click here to download the app for IOS devices

See it differently help you to look forward at ways to improve communication.

Understanding your relationships from Solihull Approach is a free online course available to Wirral parents that offers expert advice and guidance on communication, coping with our feelings, conflict and ways to resolve issues. Further information on the other courses on offer can be found here Solihull Approach course library

Code to access course is Mersey.

Gingerbread is a charity for single parents and they have many useful articles that you can read through to help you through your separation.

Gingerbread ~ Separating

Family Lives is a website offering free and confidential information and advice on all aspects of family life including child development, issues with schools, parenting and relationship support, aggression in the home, bullying, teenage risky behaviour, and mental health concerns of both parents and their children.

If you need some extra support through the separation and divorce process before reaching court, use the following webpage for advice and guidance:

Advice Now ~ help to deal with family problems

Sorting out where your little one will live during the separation process can be hard.

NSPCC~ Understanding parental rights and responsibilities

Advice Now ~ Child arrangements

Making Child arrangements and further guidance can be found on GOV.UK ~Making child arrangements if you divorce or separate

Free Smarter Start to Separate Checklist from Separate Space which includes tips on talking to children about separation and divorce

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Time to reflect

When thinking about how to support your child through your separation or divorce: 

What are you already doing that you want to carry on doing?  

What have you learned that you could try today?  

What do you want to do next?

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